This word might not even exist…

But they… they are real.

It’s that individual that, with a low, monotone voice tells you that things will never be the same again, that this is as real as it could get. So far, so good. There’s nothing wrong in expressing your view related to our surroundings. This is what freedom of speech is all about.

Well, he doesn’t stop here… Of course there are some more things. From the surroundings, he closer and closer. There’s a turn in the situation right as you speak: it seems like you are the real problem after all. This is where the instant feedback mechanism kicks in: in glimpse you are caught in an avalanche of unsolicited feedback. With the last breath you simply want to get away. It’s too late… Your mind strikes back, the overthinking mechanism is doing its thing.

Feedback is always welcomed: it plays an important role in the your evolution. In the near future you’ll be a totally different person, and all of this thanks to the feedback you’ve received.

In my humble opinion a conversation meant to build a better future, is based on listening. This is what empathy is all about after all. This begs the question: why do people give advice before proper listening? What’s in it for them? 

We love to talk so much that we forgot what listening really feels like.

If you’ve crossed paths with feedbacker lately, do yourself a favour and move on; you’ll thank yourself later!

Some food for thought:

Avoid taking advice from someone who gives advice for a living, unless there is a penalty for their advice.” — Nassim Taleb